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[acuerdo]

man this is embarrassing to admit, but i've never actually been with anyone long enough to worry about things like valentine's day.

i know that it's not a thing here. i don't think so anyway.
but um...

here's a question mostly for the ladies, but guys it's okay for you to answer too...
what's something you'd like your guy to do for you on a special occasion?

besides remembering that is. i think i've got that bit covered.

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[naz]

I would say that I think it depends more on the girl. What kinds of things does she like?
Is she into grand gestures or would she rather just some acknowledgement and a nice dinner?

[acuerdo]

[is it bad that his immediate answer to this question was 'the back seat of my car'? probably, which is why he's refraining from that particular overshare. no matter how tempting it might be.]

she seemed to really like when i took her on a hot air balloon ride. or well, not the ride itself. but the picnic after.

a little of both? maybe?

[naz]

So then it sounds like you'd do best looking for something that walks the line. Don't go too overboard, because then that's overwhelming maybe. But maybe a step up from going out to dinner.

I'm still kind of new here so I don't know what all there is to do here, but maybe reviewing some of the options to see something that you think she'd enjoy doing that you guys haven't done yet and couple it with a nice dinner or—an indoor picnic could be nice, too, if she likes picnics. It's a bit cold for a traditional one.

[acuerdo]

i wouldn't want to seem like i'm trying too hard.
but i definitely want it to feel like more than an average date night.
she kind of got caught out in the blizzard that happened last month...
so even if the weather weren't chilly, i wasn't going to suggest anything wintery.

she's a workout instructor and she's always asking me to take one of her classes. but that's not romantic. ugh.
i usually ask my best friend about stuff like this...

[naz]

Well, take one of her classes. It might not be romantic to you, but if she's been asking you to, then she'll be happy to see you in one. That might be a good start. You know her better than I do, but it sounds like that might be a pleasant surprise to kick off your date night?

[acuerdo]

i hope so at any rate.
do you know what i'm supposed to wear to zumba, though?
because i have no idea.

[naz]

( In spite of herself, Caitlin laughs a little at that. He hadn't mentioned Zumba before and she missed it, had he? )

...um. Please don't take offense, but...do you what Zumba is...?

[acuerdo]

[her question doesn't give him a whole lot of hope that this class is a good idea. his next statement is about as close as he can get to treading lightly.]

no...? i've never asked, but she swears it's 'fun'.

[naz]

( If she'd realized the type of class, she might not have suggested it, but mostly because she doesn't know this guy at all and she has no idea whether it'd be a good idea. So, she attaches a video for him. )

Oh, she's right, it's a ton of fun, but...may or may not be your speed. It's basically a dance workout...

[acuerdo]

[...that's definitely not what he's expecting, but then again, he's not sure exactly what he expected one of kimberly's classes to be like. thank you kind stranger who helps him by sharing knowledge that he could probably just google instead with likely less embarrassment.]

like the macarena on steroids.
i don't think anyone should see me in spandex.

i mean she might like it but...
does everyone smile like that when they do it?
i'm not a grumpy person but damn that's a lot of cheer.

[naz]

I think that was probably a demonstrative video, so they're probably professionals.
I don't know if everyone smiles. People who aren't used to being that active probably don't; it's actually really exhausting.

You could probably get away with sweatpants instead?

[acuerdo]

it definitely didn't look like a cakewalk, for sure.
i'll have to find out if there's a beginner's class.
wouldn't want to pull a muscle before a date...

i'm keeping my fingers crossed that maybe a pair of basketball shorts will do.
i could swing that.

[naz]

Yeah definitely don't go into an advanced class blind, that'll leave you sore as hell.

I'm sure that they will.

( And he's still planning on going after that? He must really care about this girl, because this guy does not look like the type to Zumba. )

[acuerdo]

[he's either exceedingly stupid or he really does care about her. because his idea of a work out is decidedly less cardio and more lifting heavy things.]

hey, i really appreciate the help.
is there any way i can repay you for the advice?

[naz]

Oh, no problem. I don't know how helpful it was, but I tried.

No, no...just pay it forward if you ever get the chance and we'll call it even. :)

[acuerdo]

helpful or not. you were nice enough to answer my question, which is more than i can say about some people.
i'll be sure to pay it forward, but at least let me buy you a coffee or something.

i insist.

[naz]

All right, I'll tell you what. After your date with your girlfriend, you can tell me how it went over a cup of coffee. That sound fair? I'm invested, now.

[acuerdo]

deal.
i'm not sure it'll be primetime tv levels of interesting, but i'll try.

[naz]

Ha well lucky for you, I don't really watch much primetime TV, so you're probably safe.
Good luck on your date :)