text: un: reyes

[acuerdo]

man this is embarrassing to admit, but i've never actually been with anyone long enough to worry about things like valentine's day.

i know that it's not a thing here. i don't think so anyway.
but um...

here's a question mostly for the ladies, but guys it's okay for you to answer too...
what's something you'd like your guy to do for you on a special occasion?

besides remembering that is. i think i've got that bit covered.

Comments

text; un: c.snow

[naz]

I would say that I think it depends more on the girl. What kinds of things does she like?
Is she into grand gestures or would she rather just some acknowledgement and a nice dinner?

[acuerdo]

[is it bad that his immediate answer to this question was 'the back seat of my car'? probably, which is why he's refraining from that particular overshare. no matter how tempting it might be.]

she seemed to really like when i took her on a hot air balloon ride. or well, not the ride itself. but the picnic after.

a little of both? maybe?

[naz]

So then it sounds like you'd do best looking for something that walks the line. Don't go too overboard, because then that's overwhelming maybe. But maybe a step up from going out to dinner.

I'm still kind of new here so I don't know what all there is to do here, but maybe reviewing some of the options to see something that you think she'd enjoy doing that you guys haven't done yet and couple it with a nice dinner or—an indoor picnic could be nice, too, if she likes picnics. It's a bit cold for a traditional one.

[acuerdo]

i wouldn't want to seem like i'm trying too hard.
but i definitely want it to feel like more than an average date night.
she kind of got caught out in the blizzard that happened last month...
so even if the weather weren't chilly, i wasn't going to suggest anything wintery.

she's a workout instructor and she's always asking me to take one of her classes. but that's not romantic. ugh.
i usually ask my best friend about stuff like this...

text. un: missmystic

[gasping]

... wait
are you seriously asking this???

why does everyone go right to 'ask the audience' when 'phone a friend' is a perfectly good option?

[acuerdo]

do i look like an anonymous troll on the internet?
yes i'm asking.

are you going to answer?

[gasping]

well, it's kind of a weird question to ask random people who don't know you or her, isn't it?

also you DO realize that she can totally see this, whoever she is
i'm assuming it's a she, anyway

[acuerdo]

i'm just trying to gather ideas.
no guarantee that i'm going to do anything anyone suggests.

like that whole 'would you jump off a cliff if someone told you to?'

are you always this disagreeable?

text; un: coffeefiend

[ichoosefight]

Try extra hard not to be an asshole :)

weird how hard that can be for people

[acuerdo]

i'm definitely trying to avoid doing that.
but that kind of response makes me wonder what kind of people you've been dealing with.

jerks clearly.

[ichoosefight]

A few guys who mean well, a bunch who really don't, and the kind of friends whose names you forget when you go to college, mostly.

It seems like a really easy trap to fall into.

[acuerdo]

yeah...
that laundry list is why my social circle is really small.
and the dating circle even smaller.

not that i've lived that college kid experience, but i understand.

text; un: driver

[killertrack]

i'm no girl but just do something kimberly will like, robs

you know her better than the rest of us

[acuerdo]

i do. but like...
there's gotta be something more than a candlelit dinner, right?

i realize it's not a one size fits all thing.
but...

[killertrack]

she likes dancing. what about some kind of salsa class, or something like that. something that'll take you out of your comfort zone, so she'll know you're making an effort

she likes to be cooked for

[ He'd know. ]

i can free up the apartment, and you can cook her something. just. show you've put thought into it.

[ Must he do everything for you, Robbie. ]

text, un: s.reid

[doctoral]

If I had a girlfriend that long, for special occasions I'd want to spend time with her without any distractions.

Maybe that's too basic.

[acuerdo]

i don't think that's too basic.
we spend lots of time together as it is, but maybe it'd be nice to get away from everyone and everything else.

like some kind of couple's retreat?

[doctoral]

Yeah. Maybe? It's supposed to be about your relationship, so just the two of you would make sense.

Where you'd go would depend on what she'd like.

un: mechanic

[scrimshanding]

it really depends on the lady.
but in my opinion you usually can't go wrong with food. flowers are a bit hit or miss. most people usually like something nice and creative for the day. it doesn't even have to be fancy. like if all you can afford is pizza order it shaped like a heart or something and get her favorite.

[acuerdo]

i think she might roll her eyes if i got her a pizza.
but maybe if i can swing a really nice dessert.
she does have a bit of a sweet tooth.

i'm kind of hopeless in the kitchen, but if you've got an easy to make but big on the wow suggestion, i'm listening.

[scrimshanding]

this might be kinda middle-school, since the last time i did this i was 12, but my mom helped me make these red velvet pudding cups for this girl i had a crush on.
there's like a bunch of different ways to do it. we did it with red velvet pudding, pound cake, and homemade strawberry whip. then we just layered it.
but you could do it with whatever kinda cake or pudding she likes.

text ; un: stardust

[made_of_stars]

...

I -

I don't know?

[So helpful, Jyn.]

[acuerdo]

[ay dios]
that's my problem too.

can you not narrow things down or?

[made_of_stars]

[She knows. Valentine's Day is not a thing where and when she comes from. She's trying, Robbie, gosh.]

Well ... from what I gather, this is a romantic occasion? What does she like that could be considered an appropriate gift?

Does it even have to be romantic? Can it be something that she needs?

What do you think she might want the most?

text. un: lightgrip

[risers]

Valentine's Day isn't a special occasion. It's just a part of the mundane's marketing ploy to make people think they're not valuing each other if they don't buy x, y, and z that's been marketed to them as "the best way to make your significant other know you care about them!"

[ alec lightwood may pretend he knows nothing, but he really fucking hates valentine's day. #downwithhallmarkdays ]